The Most Attractive Quality in a Guy

An Insight Into What Women Want (1)

lisa being honest
3 min readFeb 16, 2018


Being tall, rich and handsome is good, don’t get me wrong. But being good on paper doesn’t make you boyfriend material. Being in a good university course, coming from a good family, maintaining a good social image and a good standard of living is also good. But that’s the problem. It’s ‘good’ , and we dont want good. We want great.

We don’t want some guy with a mediocre degree and an average job looking for an equally ordinary girl to make his wife and live that traditional family life. Someone who goes to his well paid monotonous job from 9 to 5, does what he has to do to earn money for the family and doesn’t take risks.

We want someone with passion.

I know what you’re thinking. Passion? Passion for what? Passion for anything really. Anything you set your mind to. A hobby, a job, a sport, an instrument, travelling, cooking. You name it. As long as you’re passionate about it, your passion will define you and set you above other mediocre guys. The confidence to express your passion makes you appear more fearless and not too caught up in what everyone else thinks. Nowadays people are so focused on being like the norm and fitting in that having a unique passions makes you stand out from the crowd and even shows intellect and strength.

Maybe sharing what is attractive to you, is the secret to making you attractive?

Being passionate about something makes a guy come off as set on his goals, knowing what he wants and how to get it. And this mindset is what makes it so attractive. Being sure gives a sense of stability. And stability is attractive.

‘’If you’re doing anything right now that’s not in line with what you truly want, you are not living with passion. Without passion, you’ll never be your most charismatic, attractive, and influential self, living a life you enjoy and being someone that others enjoy being around.’’

Its so sexy when we see a guy being passionate about something he does. Showing enthusiasm and ability to be truly interested in something. Having the drive and motivation to work to improve his passion and be ready to make personal changes and work harder. Being knowledgeable about something is attractive.

And I’m not referring to guys who are knowledgeable in the sense that they’re all talk. I’m talking about guys who are really knowledgeable, speaking from experience and facts. When a guy talks about his passion, he talks with an element of self-confidence and self-assurance, and this, is what keeps our attention and makes us so intrigued.

So many guys talk to us about a whole lot of things they care very little about, thinking they can impress us with how much they know. They try to find some common ground, pretending they like the same things we do. so that we’ll feel some sort of connection to them, which we’ll probably fall for, for a while. But we’ll get bored the minute we realise that they aren’t really passionate about all that stuff, and they aren’t really passionate about anything.

So do what you love, and love what you do. Express yourself and don’t be afraid. Chase your dreams and chase them with passion. Be ready to work to work for them and don’t compromise. Be sure and stable. Just don’t be over cocky about it and blab on for hours because thats when we’ll fake sick and leave.

Disclaimer: This is solely based on my personal opinion and discussions I’ve had with others, not scientific facts.



lisa being honest

Overdramatic realist. Full of resentment towards the male population. Hopeful answers to desperate questions.